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Oprah is a true have it all woman

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

— Eleanor Roosevelt, First Lady

Our series continues, Women of Extraordinary Greatness, from my book, The Have It All WomanI believe we all can create the life we desire. You will face challenges and people who will challenge you along the way. You just have to decide whether or not you want it more than those who don’t want you to succeed. 

Oprah Gail Winfrey was born into poverty in rural Mississippi to a single teenage mother on January 29th, 1954.

At age nine, Oprah was raped and by age fourteen she gave birth to a son who later died in infancy. To say that Oprah’s early life was hard would be an understatement.

As a child she was told that she was ugly and would never amount to anything.

She was shuffled around, abused and neglected.

Many people had opinions about Oprah and she would go on to design her own life, become the most powerful woman in media, transform generations, and ultimately, absolutely not live into anyone else’s notion of who or what Oprah was.

She defined her own worth.

Other people’s perspectives of our lives are often interesting things, and something we can either use to contribute to our power, or dwell on as a mechanism to take us out of the gain.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “The good opinion of others is none of my business.”

Essentially, like Oprah, she simply decided to live her life giving little heed of what other people were saying.

To truly have it all, you are going to have to let go of the opinions of others unless you can use those to help you become the powerful, have it all woman, you are destined to be.

Over time I have been called a variety of things: loving, edgy, beautiful, angry, peaceful, tough, powerful, compassionate, genuine, honest, emotional, aggressive, competitive, diplomatic, a leader, a follower, a procrastinator, fat, thin, ugly, dark, light, tall, short, round, pudgy, and the list goes on and on.

Yes, I have even been called a bitch.

So there you have it: I either have multiple personalities, or I am a cross-section of just about every woman on the planet.

At times, I have allowed people’s criticism to be the cause of some obsession, though inherently the thing I have learned is that anyone who is being hurtful is someone who is hurting themselves in some way.

Once we decide that we can have it all, we may be faced with criticism and often from those closest to us.

It is important to remember that we will have critics no matter what we do in life and living for our critics is a sure fire way to deter us from any potential happiness.

Garner strength from Oprah’s story.

Know that YOU create your life.

Let go of the opinion of anyone else because that is a sure re way to give away your power.

You can have it all, you can design a life where you play bigger than you could have ever imagined and it simply begins within; no one else’s opinion has in uence over you unless you decide to allow it.

Susan Sly is a best-selling author, speaker, trainer and entrepreneur.  She specializes in helping individuals, and organizations, become more productive.  She resides in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband, Chris.  Susan is the mother of four children and loves her life! To connect with Susan, visit



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